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Everyone wants to be happy.
It’s a universal desire and aspiration. But how many today are truly happy? Many if not most are living worried, anxious, and stressed-out lives. How can we overcome this?
Here are three simple keys on how you can double your happiness in 2020 and beyond:
GROW. Happiness equals progress — constantly moving in a positive direction. If we’re stagnant, we slowly deteriorate. We are all built for growth. So we’re either growing or dying. So, nurture your spirit, mind, soul, and being by improving yourself in every possible way. Read and study inspirational and encouraging books, especially the Bible, the foundation of truth and wisdom. Don't spend so much time on social media or watching mindless TV. Be more intentional with how you spend your time this year. Find ways to improve aspects of your life like your health, career, finances, and relationships. Even a 1 percent improvement every day will compound to a lot of improvement over a lifetime.
GIVE. Bestselling author and peak performance strategist Anthony Robbins once said, “The secret to living is giving." When he was just a young boy of eleven, his family was so poor that they often went hungry. One Thanksgiving Day, a stranger knocked on their door and gave them food to eat. It changed his life forever. From that moment on, he made it his mission to pay it forward, and he’s been feeding over almost a billion people now. In the Bible, Christ said, it is more blessed to give than to receive. It’s true. When you give, you are happier. Your happiness is doubled because not only do you make someone happy, you are also a recipient of that person's happiness. And when you give, the more you receive. That’s a law as real, predictable, and effective as gravity.
BE GRATEFUL. When you find something to complain about, you make yourself unhappy. Because in life, there are a lot of things to criticize — a lot of things that are wrong and less than ideal. It’s not very hard to find those. But if we put our focus there, we will always be unhappy. So, I’ve learned to focus on what's going right. And to be thankful to God for those things that are going right. Let that be your overwhelming focus. Learn to notice and appreciate even the little things in every moment. This attitude will give you the energy and the motivation to fix those things that are wrong and less than ideal in your life.
In the final analysis, I don't care how rich you are. Even if you have every blessing and material advantage in this world, you will always be unhappy if you cannot be grateful for all those blessings. And if you just live for yourself alone, your happiness will be short-lived. And if you just coast along and forget about improving yourself — if you're apathetic about life — you will begin to deteriorate and die. And you will lead a miserable life.
The following is the full transcript of this episode of The Best Life Club, filmed on January 1, 2020. Please note that this episode, like all episodes of TBLC, features Daniel speaking extemporaneously — he is unscripted and unedited, filmed in one take.
Hello, everyone. This is Daniel Macaraeg, founder of The Best Life Club.
Today is January 1st, 2020. Tonight or today, I'd like to share with you a very helpful or simple, you know, post or advice or something that could potentially help us. And the title is How to Double Your Happiness in 2020. How to Double Your Happiness in 2020.
Now, happiness is a subject that everyone can relate to. Everyone likes to be happy. There's hardly anyone — you know, if they're normal, if they're sane, they would normally want to be happy. And unless you're suicidal, you want your life to be joyful, to be filled with zest, with energy, with enthusiasm, and with excitement. And that's the way we were created. And that's the way we were made.
But many people today are unhappy. They have all this worry and anxiety and stress and even some depression. How can you overcome that? I'd like to share with you three simple keys, based on research and everything that I have studied and read, on how we can double our happiness in 2020 and beyond.
And the very first key in being happier as a person is — number one — to always be growing. You know, happiness equals progress. If you want to be happy, you have to keep moving in a positive direction. If you're going to stay stagnant or you're going to get to stay in a holding pattern or worse to deteriorate or to get worse by the day, it's going to make you feel bad. And so we are built for growth. And anything that's not growing is dying, if not sooner than later. So anything that is healthy would grow. And if it's not healthy, it would suddenly start to deteriorate and die.
So the very first thing that I'd like to remind all of us is to keep growing. I don't mean just physically growing, but I'm talking about, you know, nurturing your spirit, your mind, your soul, your being into improving yourself in every possible way. And that includes reading and studying inspirational and encouraging positive books, literature, and materials.
Don't spend so much time watching mindless TV or just browsing through social media mindlessly. Be more intentional with how you spend your time this year. And I'd like to encourage you to spend most of your time, the majority of that, into improving your mind, reading books, personal development, inspirational books, especially the Bible, because it's the foundation of truth and wisdom. There's no other better book out there than the Bible. And to study that and let it fill you up and let it inspire you and let it guide you and motivate you in the best way to live. And that's the way that you could grow more.
And not only that, you could find out other strategies and ways to improve your health, to improve your career, to improve the way you do your finances in relationships, how you interact with people, and of course, especially with your relationship with God. So that's number one, always be growing. Even one percent improvement every day over a year's time will be a lot of improvement. And you'll be shocked and surprised to see a better version of you a year from now. So I'd like to encourage you to keep growing.
And second is to always be giving. You know, there is nothing that will make you happier than to give because "the secret to living is giving." I learned this from Anthony Robbins, a quote that I remember and it has made an impact on my life.
When he was really a young boy, he was really poor and he didn't have a lot of money. And they were struggling and they were hungry. And there was a time during Thanksgiving Day when a stranger knocked on the door. And he opened the door and he was so shocked because the stranger just gave food, you know, a meal. And from that moment on, I think he was 11 years old, he made it his mission to pay it forward. And so I think has been feeding millions, in fact, maybe a billion people now, in various charity work. It's a very important principle that when you give, you're happy. When you're able to share — when you're able to contribute on a massive scale. And even if you just touch one person's life and make their burden lighter and easier, it builds you up.
You know, Christ said in the Bible, it is more blessed to give than to receive. It's so true. You know, we all want to receive, and we're happy when we receive. But you know what? When you give, the happiness is doubled because not only do you make someone happy, you are also a recipient of that person's happiness because you're able to benefit them. You're able to bless them. You're able to help them. And it doubles your happiness than when you're just receiving.
And so that's the second thing, to always be giving. Find ways to give. Always find ways to give. And, you know, people think, well, if I give, that means I'll have less. Well, that's human logic. But the universe, God's way, doesn't work that way. When you give, the more you receive. And so just trust that. That's a principle and a law that operates like gravity. It's so predictable. It's so effective. And so try it and test it and report and say it doesn't work. But I can almost guarantee that that's gonna work. And it's going to build up your happiness and it's going to make you a more positive person overall.
Number three, the third point — and it's probably one of most, if not the most important of these three points. And it is to always be grateful. You know, when we find something to complain about, we make ourselves unhappy. If we look at what's wrong, if we look at what's not going right in our life, there are so many things that we can find that's not going right. A lot of things to criticize. A lot of things to point out what's wrong. But, you know, there's a lot of things to find. There are a lot of things that are wrong and a lot of things that are not ideal. But if we put our focus there, we are always going to be unhappy.
And so my practice and this is what I do — I've learned this and it has helped me so much — do not focus on what's going wrong in your life. Focus on going what's going right. And thank God and be thankful and be grateful for those things that are going right. And let that be your overwhelming focus and desire in your life.
Always be grateful even for the little things. And always find something to appreciate in every moment. And so I believe that if you open your eyes and to be more present and to be more observant, you will find a lot of things to be grateful for. And so, yeah, it doesn't mean that you're a Pollyanna and just pretend that there's nothing wrong that's happening, but it will give you the energy and the motivation to fix those things that are wrong. But your primary focus will be gratitude and appreciation and positivity. And that's going to fuel your drive and your productivity to fix those things that are not so ideal in your life.
So I hope that those three things have served you and it has served me a lot. And in my readings and I have read hundreds of books on personal development over the years, 25 years now, and I could summarize it in three Gs: keep growing or always be GROWING. Always be GIVING and always be GRATEFUL. And so if you do that, then you are going to find the best life possible.
Because I don't care how rich you are — if you have every blessing, every material blessing in this world. If you cannot be grateful for them, you're going to be unhappy. And if you just live for yourself — selfishly — you never give. You just focus on getting, you will never be happy. Or the happiness will be short-lived. And if you're just focusing on just coasting along and not improving yourself — if you're just apathetic about life — you're slowly going to die and deteriorate. And it's going to make you miserable.
So those are the three things I'd like to share with you. Always be growing, always be giving, and always be grateful. And so, until next time, this is Daniel Macaraeg wishing you all God's blessings and a very successful and productive 2020 and beyond.